Fast Furious – Irony


Some would call the events of this weekend ironic. Painful, sad, and so on.
A man who made a name for himself, among with other things, as a driver if really fast cars. Dies in a car apparently going too fast for the roads they were on.

But I tend to think away from the irony in this, and like always look for the good. The message left behind by one, whose life will now be looked upon heavily.

For starters, he must have been wearing a seatbelt. From experience I know that in a crash as this one. Not wearing one would have caused them to be ejected. And in these days and time. There was NO mention of drugs or alcohol playing a factor.

So many young folks today act as if that is the only way to live and function in life. A role model has been given to is here.

A man in the midst off doing good! Vin Diesel described him in a post as, brother. We should remember the good he has left, the drive in his heart. And the spirit with which he lived, right to end.

Can you say the same about your life? Or can someone call you that way, if you died today.


FIFTY “50”


Fifty, what a seemly large number at one’s point. I kinda like the way it comes out in Spanish. Cincuenta, which broken down is “without count”.

When we are but children reaching the age of 50 seems like an eternity away. Then as it comes closer some of us wonder how we will embrace that up coming milestone. Will we be there, how will I be, where will I be. There are many who have never seen the sun rise on a 50th year of life, while the Bible tells of those who have lived as long as 300 years.

Three years ago I posted on Facebook that I planned to dance a merengue on the top of the Empire State Building, for my 100th birthday. Some people laughed, and simply thought it was just a wild idea. We must live our lives with goals, and dreams to reach as each day of life goes on. This was to become a new goal, a new challenge to hit.

Follow me on the first steps of this goal, as I prepare to celebrate the completion of only the baby steps of hitting this goal.

I realized that this goal would have some serious cost to getting there. Not just staying alive, but staying healthy as well. When I was 20 years old I’d get home in Corona, NY and run from 108th street and Roosevelt ave down to 48th street and back. Now for those who don’t know in NYC 20 blocks equals a mile. so I was doing pretty go. I played paddleball every weekend, and lived reasonably comfortable.

Due too long hours at work, running came to a halt. My health was still pretty good, so it wasn’t too bad to stop running. However by age 29 when I decided to try to start again. A very ugly wake up call came. I ran ten blocks and there was a horrible itch on my legs. So after hours of finding no solution to this, a hospital visit was too come. After all the test, I was told that the circulation in my legs had gotten so bad, and I should just not even think about running again. Oh well I thought I can still play baseball, paddleball, and do just about everything else. No Biggie.

But when things start going down, we need to beware that other things may start down that path as well. As so it was. I went from 130 pounds to 164, pants size 29 to 34, and the final kicker, blood pressure went from an average of 90/60 too 140/92.  GOOD MORNING WORLD!! Here was the wake up call.

Blood Pressure reading 10/13

Blood Pressure reading 10/13

So a weight loss program had to be reached, and a plan out too work. FAST. I had all the medical knowledge to correct these issues, now I just had to get to work.

I promised myself that before I hit my fiftieth birthday I was going to correct this! No if ands or buts about it.

I started exercising as mush as I could. Along this way I met a friend, and her husband. Alma And Don Cundiff gave me the clue to fulfilling this dream. They introduced me to a product called ZIJA. And more to the point Zija’s XM Plus. For the past few years I have been taking one bottle of this every morning, and trying to eat only those things that were healthy. Over the past three months, I made the plunge to only eating what I cook. And long behold, the first piece of the dream manifested itself. I could no longer fit right into my pants. I was back to buying 29 waist pants.

So I decided to try a few other things. so the guys at Planet Fitness, in Lexington became my cheering section. As I stepped on a treadmill, scared that the circulation in my legs would end me in the hospital again. So they watched and I ran for 15 min with NO pain, NO itch, just lots of sweat. COOL, I was almost back.


Facing the doom of that birthday on the 21st of October, I became scared that I wasn’t going to make it. Even with the blood pressure meds it wasn’t coming down to where I waned it. But I knew that the weight had to drop in order for the pressure to come back down.  Two weeks I walked into a Rite Aid store, sat on the blood pressure section and long behold the reading read, 97/67! I knew I had to find a scale soon.

When I finally found a scale, since Planet Fitness has everything except. (lol) I got on it with all the fears and began to glow as the displayed showed 127!

The country music song writer worried about his next 30 years. I am ready to face my next fifty years, healthy, fit, and strong. There are many, many things to change and better, but I’m ready to face them now as I step out this morning and say, Happy Birthday, ME!

So thank you to those who helped, maybe by simply just saying the right words, or getting to try something that really would work. But Thanks to the great example for life that came from Mom, and Dad. The guidance of great teachers, and classy folks who cross ones life.

So where are you in your travels? Are you ready too, or making plans that far ahead? Make your life great for you, and those around you. But remember to LIVE.

So follow me, or better yet chase me if you can. I dare you. Better yet I double Dog dare you to try to live happy, healthy, and dance at my 100th birthday. I’ll be looking in the rear view mirror to see if I see you.

Catch me if you can

Catch me if you can

It will feel great to celebrate my 50th birthday today. I hope to smile, and enjoy. The memories of those who have gone to rest will live strong, and the love from those friends and family members. Will help guide and walk with on this journey. Don’t ever let your dreams, ambitions, or desires go by the way side.  You can do what ever you set your mind to!


Thanks for reading!



Friday September 27, 2013. As I woke up yesterday there was but one thing on my mind. That day should be filled with pain sadness, and lots and lots of tears. Yet after a few moments of sitting on the edge of the bed and thinking, there were no tears, there was no new or greater sadness.  There was no new pain, yet a desire to jump, shout and scream at the top of my lungs.

I held back as my neighbors would have most likely called the police. (lol)

Ten years ago on a similar morning, I woke up and heard my mother say: “Ten cuiadado muchacho”, which is de careful boy. The problem was that I was 350 miles away from my mom was at that moment. I was in fear of hearing her voice so clearly that morning. About 10 min later the phone rang, and a nurse from New York University hospital came on the line and said: Mr Fraden,  your mother’s heart rate has dropped to 16, as per your family we wanted to make sure you wish to not have anything else done.

Answering that question seemed so hard, so difficult.  Yet today I realize it has only become harder on me today. I can’t be sad, mad at the events that led up too that. But I guess mom just knew how to push all the right buttons.  You see after all her kids were done with school, or at least we thought we were. She went back to school, first to learn English, then to study and become a Registered Lab Tech.

Was there any quit in this woman? arthritis in her body stopped her from living with pain each day. And like that she walked to take a bus, and two trains to get to work each day.

So on this the tenth anniversary of my Mom going to rest in the hands of Almighty God. I will celebrate in the only way that would make mom proud. I will enroll back in school, start a new career process, and drive myself to complete it.

i will celebrate MOM with each breath, and each step. And hope that I can make her proud.

Celebrate with me, the tears just didn’t fit in her life, and they will be gone from mine now.

Living Great – One man’s way

GeorgeGeorge Beverly Shea

Then Jesus beholding him loved him, and said unto him, One thing thou lackest: go thy way, sell whatsoever thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, take up the cross, and follow me.   Mark 10:21

I remember growing up and hearing Mr Shea singing. My parents didn’t really speak lots of English at that point, but they just loved to hear him sing.  There was a missionary at our church by the name of Luis Montalvo, who explained to me why they loved his music so.

It is the passion with which he sings, his heart goes into every word. The meaning of each song becomes more real as his voice, his manners, and his expressions display it.  I soon learned that, this is the meaning of understanding how a true Christian life can be defined.

But yet as time went on, I always asked myself why he never made it to the top of the charts. Why wasn’t this man, this son of GOD not making the big bucks, like some of the other so-called “great Tenors”. I think he better in lots of respect.

As I stopped to think about, his passing at the age of 104. I was reminded of the Bible verse at the top. And now I realize, he was the top of the list that all those other tenors were trying reach.

His class, his love for the music will live in lots of our hearts around the world. He might have sung in English, but I know there are hearts of many languages who will never forget, the George Beverly Shea, version of  “HOW GREAT THOU ART”.

May he rest in peace in the loving arms of savior and Lord Jesus Christ.

So give a listen, say a prayer, and take heed to finding greatness in Christ

How Great Thou Art

If you click on the picture at the top, you can go to His memorial page.

I wanted YOU!!


Sometime in life everything just seems blah. There is really no real way to describe that feeling. However it seems that more and more people are losing the true feeling, and meaning of love. The full body, all energy, non stop giving excitement of simple love.

I was pointed at a song that has made me of the simple, yet glorious things that many have passed up by replacing love, with sex.
So I won’t say much, and let you read the lyrics for yourself.


Lately I’ve been thinking ’bout wat i can do

I’ve been stressing to fall back in love with you
I’m so sorry that I couldn’t follow through
But I can’t go on this way
I’ve got to stop it babe
You’ve been wonderful in all that you can be
But it hurts when you say that you understand me
So believe me I, I am sorry I.. I am sorry I, I

I wanted you to be there when I fall
I wanted you to see me through it all
I wanted you to be the one I love
I wanted you, I wanted you
I wanted you to hold me in my sleep
I wanted you to show me what I need
I wanted you to know just how down deep
I wanted you, I wanted you

I’ve been pushing hard to open up the door
Trying to take us back to where we were before
But I’m done I just can’t do this anymore
Cause we can’t be mended
So let’s stop pretending now
We’ve been walking round in circles for some time
And I think we should head for the finish line
So believe me I, I am sorry I.. I am sorry I, I

I wanted you to be there when I fall
I wanted you to see me through it all
I wanted you to be the one I love
I wanted you, I wanted you
I wanted you to hold me in my sleep
I wanted you to show me what I need
I wanted you to know just how down deep
I wanted you, I wanted you, yeah

I, I I’m so sorry baby but
I, I I’ve got to pack up and leave but
I, I’ll always remember how we came close to be
And what I wanted to be
I wanted you baby
Oooooh Yeahh
I wanted you
I wanted, I wanted you

I wanted you to be there when I fall (I wanted you to be there, yeahhh)
I wanted you to see me through it all
I wanted you to be the one I love (Ooh ooh)
I wanted you, I wanted you (I wanted you oh)
I wanted you to hold me in my sleep
I wanted you to show me what I need (I wanted you to know me just how down deep yeah)
I wanted you to know just how down deep (I wanted you to know just how)
I wanted you, I wanted you
I wanted you
I.. I wanted you, I wanted you

I wanted you.   Ina

If you click on the link you can hear the song. It makes a world of difference. Hope you find the one that means that much too you!


Prayers that unite

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Pregnant coach, driver dead after tour bus crash near Carlisle (VIDEO).


The following is an article of a very tragic event this morning. For some reason I noticed that there were more notices about the mistake in print, other than the loss of lives, and the emotional distress left behind.

I find it sickening that unless there is a gun shot, death the media and our government just seem to not care. The reports are almost hidden away. Yes only two people died here, some may even say three. But what about the lives that have been injured by this event, don’t they deserve anything?

I feel they deserve at least your prayers and mine. So here is my call too you that read my blogs from time to time. Read the article above and do as your heart guides you.


My condolences go out to the families of: Anthony M. Guaetta, 61, of Johnstown, PA. and Kristina J. Quigley, 30, of Greensburg, PA.


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Which is right?


Here lies the question of the ages. Is this glass, half empty, or is it half full. No matter which way you turn you will with no doubt find folks going in one way or the other. We can at least be thankful that it is only two choices in this matter. Any more might just make things really hectic, and down right really confusing.

It is amazing to me just how this question has seemed to guide the path of out lives in recent years. It seems that most folks now choose to look at things from the bottom side of things. Or should we say the negative, for at least this moment. (you can certainly choose to disagree)

A few weeks ago I was having a conversation on-line with someone I was trying to get to know. I asked the question: what is your sign? Her response was “I think that is pure evil, I don’t even give that any mind”.

I stopped to wonder about that statement, since me and my mom had the same conversation some years ago. So here is where I sit today.

Why is it so darn easy to see the negative, or the ugly over the beauty and the love?

I can recall sitting in Bible camp and singing a song whose words read:

In the stars his handiwork I see…

Why is it that since some astrological studies have turned to a dark side of things, some folks forget or choose not to see the good in things.

As I go on through life I see this in just about everything I encounter these days.  It is simply easier to see the darkness.

The picture at the bottom is only a mere example of a starry night, but ask yourself this (at least in talking about the stars)  when was the last time you looked up saw a sky filled with stars and just stopped to look?

Have we let the half empty guidelines dictate how we lead our lives?

Have we forgotten about all the great and beautiful things that life really has to offer.

I can think back too when a man buying a woman a dozen roses, meant he walked into: “I love you honey”. Yet today that same man would get: “so what did you do? or even  so you leaving me now?”

It might seem sort of funny, but as you read stop and look around you, and your life. And see just what things are really important and why.  Are you choosing the positive, or going the easier way with the negative.




They say that money is the root of all evil. If so figuring this one out is going to take some doing.

We live in an economy, where every single business is doing anything to survive, and make more. Not lose, or give away something.

While looking at the stock market you have to notice the price difference, between Microsoft, and Apple. It is almost crazy, hard to imagine. Since there seems to be more PC’s than MAC’s in homes.

So what is the greed meter, or selfishness on the part of Microsoft. Here is a chance to not just merely jump on the band wagon. They could almost own the wagon.

Why hold back on producing or releasing Office for IOS.

Come on folks, at Microsoft! This product will sell!!

Read the article, for yourself. I’m dumbfounded!


Romance-Less Valentines

Valentine’s day, the day of love!


As I sit here today I find myself wondering, just if we really truly understand the meaning of such a word. I remember back a few years saying “I love You” was the hardest thing anyone could get a man to say. The implications in saying, and meaning that phrase meant something of value. It just wasn’t something you said freely and to just anyone.

If you look at the phrase from a religious standpoint it may become even more complex in attempting to explain and apply to life. Yet to those who understand and really believe in the explanation then Love is defined in a proper manner in the Bible.

What happen to letting ones heart guide you in those moments that make a difference, with the choices that matter the most. What happen to being able to walk down a park path with that one someone, and just reach out and hold their hand, as you talk and laugh at all the simple, ridiculous things you encounter. What happen to a man doing something as simple as opening a door for a lady.

Eddie Murphy once joked about the loss of love in our world, in a way that made sense for us to see, and try to react or even change. He said: “Back in the days, if a man and a woman had an argument and the woman said, let me out of the car right now, the man would say, NO we will have done of that I will drive you back home.  Today, if that same argument was to happen, before the woman could finish the statement not only would the car be stopped, but the door on her side opened wide, followed by get out!!”

Is this where love has taken us?

Is this how we plan to have life continue?

Is there still true love possible, anywhere?

Is there still a forever and ever in ANYONE?

As I face this Valentine’s day alone, and without anyone in life to give anything too, no love, no gift, no laugh, no joy. I have asked myself the question what are people really looking for in a relationship. Why are there so many love-less relationships out there. What changed, to make us lose the facts, the simple ability to love with the passion in our hearts.

I still find it hard to look at empty relationships. Those that are based on simple sex, no feeling, no real contact. How do you love someone who you can even talk too.

I am reminded of the song “Paradise by the Dashboard lights”. It is like if we live that scene over, and over again on a daily basis. And never stop to learn the error in which we are heading.


You see when true love finds us, it stays with us. Here is an example of just that kind of love.

Gordon Yeager died at 3:38 p.m. He was no longer breathing, but the family was surprised by what his monitor showed.

“Someone in there said, ‘Why, then, when we look at the monitor is the heart still beating?'” Sheets recalled. “The nurse said Dad was picking up Mom’s heartbeat through Mom’s hand.”

“And we thought, ‘Oh my gosh, Mom’s heart is beating through him”

As I sit and write this I have two ladies in my mind. Both have left a special thought in my head. Like a drop of magic to ponder on. To wonder if the chance to show them the level of love in my heart will ever come to be. Will the chance to share dreams, walks, tears and life will ever happen.

But then there is the fear!!!!

A man who still believes in romance is a dyeing breed. A man who believes in treating a woman like a queen from the moment he meets her. Just is unheard of, and no one knows exactly how to handle him. Long time ago I was taught that a Christian man must be able to love the woman he is romancing they way it says in the Bible. “The way Jesus loved his wife the church” He gave his life for her.

If you’re a man, let me ask you this, Have you sent flowers for no reason to that woman you claim to love?  If you’re a woman, have you told him in the midst of a fight just how much you love him?  As I looked a personal ads today, I saw where some women wrote: “Looking to be wined and dined on Valentines Day. If you do it right, then the prize is yours.”

I cried as I read that one. That has no implications of love.

So as you face Valentines day, will you be one more just going through the motions, or will you be the one that stands out, for not simply saying “I Love You”, but living it, show it, sharing it.

Why have we placed so much emphasis on the size of a woman’s booty? Is that how we plan to wake up in the morning. Wake up with someone you dislike, but because of some bodily feature, or idea you start only to break it up, destroy your life. And maybe even worst, bring a child into this world without the love of the two that made them. I very often wonder does one wake up, and look at the part of the other person’s body that you liked and say, good morning.

The Elvis movie “GI Blues” has a scene where they are on a boat and he simply puts his arm around her, and the relationship beings to grow from there.

Such a simple gesture, such a long-term effect.

I hope to find that one that I can chat with, about the silliest things, walk hand in hand. No matter the age, no matter the race,  Just letting our hearts guide us as we face the rest of our lives in true love. What about you?

So yes, I’ll be alone on Valentines day. No romance, no love very depressed,and  extremely sad but my heart will sing out as loud as it can. Because the love within my heart will still search for that one heart that sings to the same tune. I still hold on to idea of TRUE LOVE!!!



may your heart guide you as you love the one who loves you!

Like Children



In the Bible Jesus says the following in Matthew 18, verses 2-3:

And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them  and said, Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.


They say that a child will always look at things in a very different way. I was sitting at home this weekend looking at some DVD titles and asking myself what made me buy some of the ones that I owned. Funny to think that a 6-year-old girl was the one responsible for me buying the movie, Happy Feet.  She spoke of the movie with such joy, and cheer. She had a purity about the movie that made it come to life. I hadn’t seen the movie at that point. I recall her mother asking me two questions. 1. was she bothering me? and 2. why did I spend so much time listening to her? I don’t remember what I answered to the second question, I just know the little girl told me about the entire movie, and made me want to see it.

Children have a purity that most parents, grandparents always treasure to keep for as long as possible. I can’t help to think of the conditions in our world today. And wonder if we havent pushed away the child like manner that made us all live happy.

As I did my search, attempting to find a pic for this blog, I realized how difficult it is to find a picture of kids, simply playing in a playground. Just doing child like things.

As we look at the recent streak of violence in our country, I am brought to the point of asking the question, have we helped to lose the children to non happy ideas.

Do we realize that most kids today know how to type text messages, or know about search engines, more than, playing hop scotch. Or kickball, in the park.  Let’s not even think about the school wide game of tag.

A kid who recently tried to take a gun to school, was asked simply why? He answered, he wanted to know if pulling the trigger would feel the same as when he played his video games.

Our children have lost their childhood, looking at things that change them forever. Maybe now would be a great time to not just us as adults, but even our kids today. Heed the words of Jesus Christ, and become as children once again.

So go out and play with a child, yea they may win. But you will have so much fun again. Bring your family back together, by simply enjoying each other while you still have the chance.


Life is only what you make it to be, so live it love it, enjoy it. And laugh like the child inside of you!

Help from????

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Since music is the one and just about the only thing in this world which seems to be easiest  to
agree on.I am not sure it The Beatles had in mind that this song could become almost a national anthem.
How many of us have found ourselves looking for that someone, or something to help us out of some dark place, or situation. Only to turn around and cause pain to the next, or bury them in some other senseless situation.
I have found myself looking back at my life and wondering, why have  I stopped so often in life, and gotten so much evil and darkness back. Why are there moments when death itself seems yet so darn great.
Check out these words:

What would you do if I sang out of tune,
Would you stand up and walk out on me.
Lend me your ears and I’ll sing you a song,
And I’ll try not to sing out of key.
Oh I get by with a little help from my friends,
Mmm,I get high with a little help from my friends,
Mmm, I’m gonna try with a little help from my friends.

Do you need anybody?
I need somebody to love.
Could it be anybody?
I want somebody to love.

Well Simon and Garfunkel had the right idea when they released their song, “Sound of Silence”.

It seems that today there is no one that really shows concern or true caring for their fellow-man. If there is a dispute they simply stop talking, to the person.  I remember reading somewhere, on some pic online. The caption read, “we made it this far cause we talked instead of walking away. It seems that even churches today have taken up this attitude.

And this new idea, of “unfriend”. Really. I guess then you never really were friends to start with. I’d love to find a way to end the silence, but for now. All I can do is just be as the song,  one more voice singing in the darkness.

Hello darkness, my old friend
I’ve come to talk with you again
Because a vision softly creeping
Left its seeds while I was sleeping
And the vision that was planted in my brain
Still remains
Within the sound of silence

In restless dreams I walked alone
Narrow streets of cobblestone
‘Neath the halo of a street lamp
I turned my collar to the cold and damp
When my eyes were stabbed by the flash of a neon light
That split the night
And touched the sound of silence

And in the naked light I saw
Ten thousand people, maybe more
People talking without speaking
People hearing without listening
People writing songs that voices never share
And no one dared
Disturb the sound of silence

“Fools”, said I, “You do not know
Silence like a cancer grows
Hear my words that I might teach you
Take my arms that I might reach you”
But my words, like silent raindrops fell
And echoed
In the wells of silence

Couldn’t resist so here are the words to the last song, so you can sing along with the link above:

Just One Voice,
Singing in the darkness,
All it takes is One Voice,
Singing so they hear what’s on your mind,
And when you look around you’ll find
There’s more than
One Voice,

Singing in the darkness,
Joining with your One Voice,
Each and every note another octave,
Hands are joined and fears unlocked,
If only
One Voice
Would start it on its own
We need just One Voice
Facing the unknown,
And that One Voice
Would never be alone
It takes that One Voice.

Ba ba ba da da da da,
Ba ba ba ba ba ba da da da,
Ba ba ba ba ba ba
It takes that one voice

Just One Voice
Singing in the darkness,
All it takes is One Voice,
Shout it out and let it ring.
Just One Voice,
It takes that One Voice,
And everyone will sing!



Today is the 26th day if this month, and I am sure that most people have done one of the following.

1. Gave up on their New Years resolution.
2. Haven’t even started!!!

The ole I’ll get to it later, which will get us to the end if this year in the same spot. The problem is that we all have set routines in our lives. And regardless if what we say, our minds don’t simply change like we flip a switch.

A friend of mine posted the above pic back in December of Facebook. It seem so easy it was funny. Well this is the end of the 4th week, and I know of at least 10 folks who have already given this idea up.

This had to be the easiest method to get ANYONE, to start truly saving money. And that is the key, here!!

Start slowly,weather it’s saving money, exercising, or anything else. Remember you are changing not just a routine, but most likely bettering your life!

So, sit back take a good long look. And remember there is still time to get back up on that horse. Well if I have stuck to this I’m sure some of you that are way smarter than me can do it.

Are there Friends still Out there??


In the Bible it says: Proverbs 17:17

A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity

It use to be that men, would say that they were going to go to a Church to find a “good” woman to marry. The key to that statement is the Bible verse above. Churches used to teach about true, pure, and real love among people. The concept of “Loving someone” was extremely important in life.

Over the years however, as things have changed, so has the mentality of people. It is at a point where you really never know when a real, true, loving friend will enter your life. Will they understand how to love you with all your faults, will they be willing to sit and talk. Or even harder, sit and listen while you pour out your heart, and share your pain.

I have been told time after time, that I hold the qualities of such a friend to some. Well that’s real nice. And it helps to honor my parents. But I’ve asked myself will I find such friends to fill the void in my heart.

A few months ago, I stopped going to Church, because I was so devastated by the actions, of a person that had given signs of being a truly great friend. Then at a moment when a conversation would have clarified a question. It was a cold stiff blade that pieced my heart.

None the less, life had gone on, and my search some what diminished  I continued to go on. I have found friends in the places where you would least of all expect to find,  long lasting, life changing friendships. Now understand, that with my personality, I talk to everyone I meet.

Over the past few months certain people have surprised me. They have shown the kind of friendship that the Bible speaks of, and claim that they may not be the biggest Bible folks in the world.

You see folks, no matter who you are, or claim to be, God has placed in all our hearts the ability to “love a Friend”.  Because one day, you will need one, or be one.

So as this year gets started, it is great for me to meet yet one more such person. she made me smile, she made me laugh. And she kept me awake the first night we spoke. That’s right we spoke, not a texting session, but actual voices being exchanged.

So let me say thank you to: Courtney Jane, Hope Hobgood, Curtis Tinsley,  Jessica Piercy. My newest friends in Lexington. Well if you go by them, I’m family.

And most of all to Emily Diaz, who has reminded me what laughing, hysterically with a friend means.

So,are you that type of friend to someone, or do you have one of those in your daily life. I am really truly grateful for mine.

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And to those who have been there, and have stayed. Remember the words of the song, and if you all don’t. Well give it a listen.



Death, is one of those things that have a way of bringing out the good in lots of people. It has a way of making just about everyone seek God, or a Church.

Recently, 20+ children were killed in a horrific manner. As I have sat a watched the media coverage, there is only one question that comes too mind. When do condolences, end and the families get to grieve in peace.

It may seem like a nice thing, to try and comfort these folks. But they will need moments to put the pieces of their lives back in some type of order. Still these families have the toughest moments that they must face alone. To see the small coffins, will produce a pain that is unmatched to anything else in life.

As a paramedic, I can recall see and dealing with a child’s death. The emotional roller coaster is a terrible ride. So I can’t understand why we continue to choose to recall these moments of horror, over, and over again.

Grieving, will only start, when all the condolences are rendered, and the families are left to bury their children. And go on to attempt to put their lives back to some sense of normality.

My prayers go out, to those families during these difficult times.
My prayers also go out to the EMT’s and Paramedic who will forever have to live with the heart ache of knowing, they could do nothing, but see a child die before their eyes.

Son’s nightmare


I was killing time today, and surf the net to see what craziness was out there. I came across this, that surely is EVERY BOYS NIGHTMARE.
There is no doubt that boys love their mothers, there is just something about that bond.

But even with all that, there is still a line, we just can’t cross when it comes to: mom!

You decide…

Awkward moment of the day with my mother.

Since I’m home for the weekend, my mom threw me into doing weekend chores, including folding laundry.

As I’m folding laundry, I come across these blue panties that have black lace and on the back, spelled out in bedazzled letters, it says “sexy.”

I turn to my mom and said,
mom, really now?
In a joking tone of course.

She then replied, “hey, you don’t have to like them, but your father does!”

Sweet mother of god.

Not Quarrelsome

ArguingNot Quarrelsome

And the servant of the Lord must not quarrel but be gentle to all, able to teach, patient.

2 Timothy 2:24

Some times in life we come across situations that cause us lots of pain. Some emotional, some physical. Pain none the less. There are often moments where you want to simply just scream at the top of your lungs and can”t.

The worst is when you are being told that you are wrong, yet all the evidence points to you being right. It is at those moments where the apostle Paul wanted us all to stop and realize what the  above verse means. I was reminded of this by a friend whose employer called her about someone else’s mistake, which she was blamed for. Later they realized they had made a mistake, and corrected themselves. By NOT auguring she was able to make a yet more powerful statement.

Check out what Henry Blackaby, (writer of Experiencing God) wrote:

There should be no quarrelsome Christians. The truth of God is within us; we need never be intimidated or frustrated by those who do not accept God’s truth.

At times people may disagree with you regarding God’s Word. Perhaps they question the way you say He is leading you, or they may challenge your faith in God. At times like these it is never helpful to argue. You will never debate anyone into the kingdom of God. You will never persuade someone that God has spoken to you by outraging them! Only God can convince others of the veracity of His word to you. If you will allow God to vindicate you in His time, and in His way, a time will come when the wisdom of your  choice will be evident (Luke 7:35). If you find yourself often quarreling with others, you need to ask God to clearly reveal your motives and to forgive you for your disobedience to His clear command.

If your motivation for arguing comes from your desire to be right, or to be exonerated, or to gain the esteem of those listening to you, you are acting selfishly, and God will not honor you. God is not interested in how right you are. He is interested in how obedient you are. God’s command is not that you win arguments, but that you are kind and forgiving when others mistreat you. You bring God no honor by winning a dispute in His name, but you reflect a Christlike character when you demonstrate patience to those who mistreat you or misunderstand your motives. Arguing may never win people to your view, but loving them as Christ does will win you many friends over time!

Blackaby, Richard (2006-12-01). Experiencing God Day By Day (p. 336). B&H Publishing Group.

Stuck With ME!!!

Hospital Delivery room

Hospital Delivery room

Over my life time, I have delivered 13 children.  And no I am not a doctor. For 15 years I worked as a EMT/Paramedic in NYC.  Now some will tell you that 13 deliveries is rare, for any one person. I guess I just had the right timing.

The other day I was chatting with someone who used the phrase, “You be stuck with me”. I began to wonder about that phrase. Why was it that within 30 days I had heard two different people use the exact phrase to describe being with me.

I began to think, what would someone, or more specific a mother say, if after nine months of pregnancy, and hours in labor, as the picture above, the baby looks up at you and says:  HA HA, now you’re stuck with me!

What do you do, what do you say?

I found myself realizing that so many people in this world have let the bad experiences in their lives over shadow the really fantastic qualities that some have. I remember asking both of the people I had the conversation with the following.

Why must I be STUCK with you? Why couldn’t I instead be BLESSED with having you in my life.

Maybe it’s time we all stopped and looked at ourselves,and our relationships. And rearranged them by the good,the better, and the GREAT. There are plenty of politicians out there to ruin everything else.

Let’s be Blessed, and overjoyed with the friends and people in our lives. And leave that being miserable to those who want to simply be stuck with themselves.

As the Taco Bell slogan goes:  Live MAS!! Trust me when you look, you may find lots of blessings, that will make you smile, just like that newborn baby!


The End Times

Revelation 1:3
Blessed is he that readeth, and they that hear the words of this prophecy, and keep those things which are written therein: for the time is at hand.

The end times, pretty hot button in the world as of late. Yet there are so many questions, so many different interpretations of things to come. Who is the so-called “anti-Christ” is he or she alive?

As I spent years looking at the Bible and coming to an understanding of its content. I can’t help but wonder why it is that everyone jumps to the back part of the book, and by-pass what seems to be key.

The elders that wrote the introduction to the book of Revelation, must have thought it pretty important to list such a promise. Yet we spend so much time looking at what seems so ugly, so dismal. If we jump to end it all looks great as John writes about the new heaven and the new earth (21:1).

But have we stopped to attempt to obtain the blessing which is mentioned in the above listed verse. It’s no secret, there is no mystery too it. We simply need to focus on the part which will guide us there.

Have you found, the key to that blessing? Or are you still searching in the darkness for a light to lay your head under and sleep safely.

Check out the first few chapters of this book, see and hear as God the father speaks with words of guidance for our lives.


I remember growing up and having to stand in the morning, place my hand upon my heart and recite the following. As I went into history class I learned just exactly it all meant, and why we held true to meaning of the text.

I saw as many like myself were drawn to this country for its stand on life, liberty, and pursue of happiness.

Over the past few years it seems, that many have opted for what they want to call “my rights” instead of  “our American way!

Today it seems so far removed. We no longer  strive to grow as a country, but divide ourselves.

Not to long ago a little boy stood on the side of a rural road, by himself. Dressed in his boy scout uniform. As a procession carrying a slain Virginia State police officer came by. He stood at attention raised his arm, and rendered a salute, till the very last car went by.  He but down his arm, and simply went home.

I guess his parents taught him  the value of being an American. Where if you want it, you go do what’s right  to get it.

I am proud to be an American, and recite this as often as I may:

I pledge Allegiance to the flag of the United States of America and to the Republic for which it stands, one nation under God, indivisible, with Liberty and Justice for all.

Check out this version it may just bring you to tears:

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Since the Pledge of Allegiance
And The Lord’s Prayer
Are not allowed in most
Public schools anymore
Because the word ‘God’ is mentioned…..
A kid in Arizona wrote the attached
NEW School prayer:

“New Pledge of Allegiance”
Now I sit me down in school
Where praying is against the rule
For this great nation under God
Finds mention of Him very odd.

If scripture now the class recites,
It violates the Bill of Rights.
And anytime my head I bow
Becomes a Federal matter now.

Our hair can be purple, orange or green,
That’s no offense; it’s a freedom scene..
The law is specific, the law is precise.
Prayers spoken aloud are a serious vice.

For praying in a public hall
Might offend someone with no faith at all..
In silence alone we must meditate,
God’s name is prohibited by the state.

We’re allowed to cuss and dress like freaks,
And pierce our noses, tongues and cheeks…
They’ve outlawed guns, but FIRST the Bible.
To quote the Good Book makes me liable.

We can elect a pregnant Senior Queen,
And the ‘unwed daddy,’ our Senior King.
It’s ‘inappropriate’ to teach right from wrong,
We’re taught that such ‘judgments’ do not belong..

We can get our condoms and birth controls,
Study witchcraft, vampires and totem poles..
But the Ten Commandments are not allowed,
No word of God must reach this crowd.

It’s scary here I must confess,
When chaos reigns the school’s a mess.
So, Lord, this silent plea I make:
Should I be shot; My soul please take!

If you aren’t ashamed to do this,  Please pass this
on.  Jesus said,  ‘If you are ashamed of me,
I will be ashamed of you before my Father. ‘

100 stabs, not 100 kisses?

AP News: Prosecutor: Kids slain in Illinois begged to live.

This is almost like a story out of a horror movie, and not reality.  The women in this story stabbed her son 100 times, and killed him.

Simply because she was mad at her husband.  Now this is bad for two reasons.

1. Truck drivers under these new horrid regulations work long hours in order to provide for their families. They or should I say we would love to be home more often and still make the money needed to keep everyone happy.

2. And this is the one that I really have a problem with. Where is the motherly love here. Where has motherly love gone too these days.

It seems that more and more we read stories like this one all over the country. I remember when I was studying to become a preacher, we  were taught a lot of different stories to help illustrate different points. This one stuck out in my head still today.

See if you feel the love in this:

A young man madly in love with a very rich girl, is told. That in order for her believe he loves her as he says, he must do one thing. He must bring her his mother’s heart on a platter. After much thinking, he finds the way, to carve out his mothers beating heart, place it on a platter and run down the street. In his haste he trips and falls on his face, and as he finds himself bleeding, in pain, and slightly embarrassed. He looks at the heart, and hears his mother’s voice from the heart, which simply says: “are you ok honey, I hope you’re not hurt”.

Mothers love has no boundaries, so where have these women learned to act in this manner.

Two kids die, begging for their lives to be spared, by someone they called mom.